Self-Care for Homemakers (A Beginner's Guide to Nurturing Yourself)

This is a beginner’s guide to self-care for homemakers. In this post, you’ll discover four categories of self-care. You’ll learn how to look after yourself—and why it’s crucial for you to do so.

What Is Self-Care?

Self-care is the process of nurturing yourself.

If you want to perform your homemaking responsibilities to the best of your ability, it’s crucial for you to learn how to take care of yourself.

The Four Categories of Self-Care

You may find it easier to take care of yourself if you divide the task into four categories:

  1. Physical well-being
  2. Emotional well-being
  3. Intellectual well-being
  4. Spiritual well-being

Let’s take a look at each of these categories.

Nurturing Your Physical Well-Being

The first way to nurture yourself is to take care of your physical well-being. A healthy body is a springboard that makes it easier for you to accomplish any goal.

Here are some tips to help you care for your physical well-being:

  • Get exposure to fresh air and sunshine. As a homemaker, much of your work may take place indoors. As a result, you might end up with very little exposure to fresh air and sunshine. If this is the case, consider spending more time outdoors. I often marvel at how much better I feel after a short walk in the sun.
  • Follow an exercise routine. You will be able to perform your homemaking more effectively if you have a strong, healthy body, so look for a type of exercise that you enjoy. My favourite form of exercise is strength training.
  • Get plenty of sleep. A few years ago, I stopped using an alarm clock. I try to get in bed at the same time every night, and I allow my body to wake up naturally every morning. This way, my body gets all the sleep it needs.
  • Develop a practice of personal grooming. Learn how to clean, maintain, and beautify your body—especially your skin, hair, teeth, and nails. If you choose the right techniques, personal grooming can be an enjoyable and soothing ritual. And of course, good personal grooming makes you look and feel confident and polished.
  • Eat a healthy diet. Choose foods that make you feel vibrant and energised, and eat appropriate quantities at appropriate times. I tend to feel best when I eat homemade meals that contain a balance of proteins, carbohydrates, and vegetables. I prefer to eat each meal at the same time every day, and I always try to eat portions that leave me feeling pleasantly satisfied.

Nurturing Your Emotional Well-Being

The second way to nurture yourself is to take care of your emotional well-being. When you are calm and contented, life becomes more enjoyable and fulfilling.

Here are some tips to help you care for your emotional well-being:

  • Learn to be aware of your emotions. For many years, I thought that by ignoring my emotions, I would be a more productive homemaker. However, this was not the case. Our emotions provide us with valuable feedback about everything that we experience, so it’s important to allow ourselves to feel our emotions.
  • Minimise stress. When you are stressed, it is impossible to fully relax and enjoy homemaking—or any other part of life. If you want to be a happier homemaker, remove unnecessary stress from your life.
  • Plan your recreation. My mood is strongly impacted by the way I spend my leisure hours, so I try my best to plan my leisure hours ahead of time. Otherwise, I am likely to fritter away my time on activities that drain me instead of uplift me.

Nurturing Your Intellectual Well-Being

The third way to nurture yourself is to take care of your intellectual well-being. When you develop a habit of challenging yourself, your brain stays active and engaged.

Here are some tips to help you care for your intellectual well-being:

  • Cultivate a love of learning. Reading is my favourite way to expand my knowledge. When I was a kid, I loved reading novels, but I hated reading non-fiction. This amuses me because now I read non-fiction every single day—and I enjoy it immensely.
  • Make progress on your hobbies. I like to spend time on a variety of hobbies, because it gives me an opportunity to learn new skills. I keep a running list of projects to work on, and I try to make progress on at least one of these projects every single day.
  • Engage in creative problem-solving. This allows you to stimulate your brain as you go about your daily life. To learn how to find creative solutions to everyday problems, you can read my post on how to be a resourceful homemaker.

Nurturing Your Spiritual Well-Being

The fourth way to nurture yourself is to take care of your spiritual well-being. By establishing your personal belief system, you provide yourself with a compass for living a life that is full of meaning.

Here are some tips to help you care for your spiritual well-being:

  • Define and prioritise your values. What kind of person do you want to be? How do you want to conduct yourself in this life? Write down your answers, then live your life accordingly. When you live a life that is true to your values, you will feel contented and fulfilled.
  • Commit to continual personal growth. No one is perfect, and it is exhilarating to know that there is always another goal that you can work towards. At the beginning of each month, select a few areas of improvement to focus on. Then during each day of the month, try to do at least one thing to help you make progress in at least one of these areas.

How To Establish a Self-Care Routine

Now that you know about the four categories of self-care, you are ready to create a tailored self-care routine for yourself.

Here’s how to create your own self-care routine:

  • Make a list. Create a list of self-care activities that make you feel nurtured. For best results, include at least two or three activities for each of the four self-care categories.
  • Schedule time for self-care. If you don’t prioritise self-care, you will rarely—or perhaps never—find time for it. So schedule time each week to complete the tasks on your self-care list. I try to complete each task on my list at least once a week.
  • Keep your list up to date. Self-care is a process, not a destination—so keep editing your self-care routine. Challenge yourself to try new self-care activities, and allow yourself to stop doing activities that fail to make you feel nurtured. Your self-care needs will change over time, and your self-care routine should evolve with you.

Self-Care Is Not Selfish

I used to think that it was selfish to lavish time and effort on myself. So I developed a habit of neglecting my needs in order to serve others. I didn’t realise that by neglecting myself, I was stinting my ability to help others.

Your body is your first home you have, as well as the oldest home you have. Your body will be yours for your entire life, and you need your body to cooperate if you wish to accomplish any task. That is why it is crucial for you to take care of your body.

There is no need to feel guilty for taking care of yourself, because it is not selfish to take care of yourself. In fact, it is more selfish to neglect yourself.

Your ability to serve others is linked to your ability to look after yourself. When you fail to look after yourself, it is impossible for you to give your best to others. That is why as a homemaker, it is crucial for you to develop the ability to look after yourself.

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